We’re a curious couple. There’s no question about that. But we certainly have received more than a couple curious questions, so we’ll use this first post as an FAQ to introduce ourselves before we move into the bulk of this blog.
We’d like to use our platform to further explore our differing and similar interests. We’d like to provide a resource for others facing issues we’ve already confronted – be it visa applications or traveling in foreign countries. And most of all, we’d like to share our love story. We want to write it together as a way to grow closer and to record it for our failing memories as we grow older. But we also want to share it with anyone else who is facing a similar situation and let you know that you’re not alone and that dreams can come true but not without effort and patience.
Without further ado, a brief history of the whos, whats, whys, and hows of Born To Singh. But not the whens because one of us does not have a head for chronology, and it’s the one whose writing this post.
Who are we?
I am Amandeep Singh of Amritsar, India. I am a Sikh who follows the rules of the Khalsa and a web developer who follows the rules of site optimization. I love guessing the plots of movies and hunting for the spiciest momos. I’m happiest when I’m learning something new and challenging because I believe mental growth is the only true marker of success. I feel writing code is like poetry and writing poetry is like breathing.
I am Krista Bornman Singh. I am a queer, feminist activist. I spent my childhood in various parts of rural northern Indiana. After college, I moved to the busyness of Los Angeles to drown out the noise in my head, but instead I began to find my answers in the quiet, in-between places of the city. I moved again to India because deep down I undeniably believe in love and second chances. I love stories and pillows and muted colors; stars, random punctuation that makes sense in my head but maybe not yours, and sarcasm. and mashed potatoes.
How did we meet?
Aman began working remotely for a Los Angeles based web development company in 2012. He rose from a talented junior developer to managing the entire web development team. Krista began working for the same company in 2015. After two years of gchats and video calls, Aman convinced Krista that we had to meet in person so he could show her that what we felt for each other was real and would last. Near the end of 2017, Krista flew to India. We finally met and there was no going back. (Well technically, there was going back for 3 months and it was a real bummer. But you know, emotionally.)
How did he propose?
We went on a three-week tour of western India from Delhi to Kerala. In Agra after visiting the Taj mahal, he asked, she said yes, she was violently ill in the hotel washroom which was completely unrelated to the proposal. This story will warrant its own blog in the near future.
What happens next?
In March 2018, we married with our immediate families in attendance in a gurudwara in India. Krista will be staying in India until Aman’s visa to America is approved. Then we will both move to LA some time in 2020, hopefully. Although first, we will be throwing a big reception party in November to invite everyone to celebrate with us in India, which should make up for our kind of shotgun wedding so we could start the visa application as soon as possible.
Will we always write in plural pronouns?
Oh god, no. I hate it. I’ll be speaking for myself going forward, and he’ll write his perspective.